A recovering alcoholic described the catalyst to his rehabilitation and recovery.
“I thought alcohol could drown my sorrows,” he said, “until I realized that
sorrows float.”
Human tendency is to blame our problems, mistakes and failures on everyone
but ourselves: “If only I had grown up with more loving parents, I would have
more self-esteem...” “If my teacher hadn’t embarrassed me in second grade, I
would have never ended up like this...” “If I hadn’t been surrounded by such bad
friends, I would be different...”
The giving of the Torah at Sinai was a monumental event. It was a moment in
time that radically changed the world and left its mark on every human being.
G-d had revealed Himself! G-d Himself appeared to millions of people and
declared, “I am the L-rd your G-d.”
No room for doubts or ambiguity: it was the “If only G-d would tell me He
exists...” moment we all wish for.
But the continuation of the dream we all have – “...then I would never do
anything wrong!” – did not materialize. Mere days after this awesome experience,
the Jews succumbed. Afraid that Moses had abandoned them, they created a golden
calf and began worshiping it. Never mind the “You shall not serve any other
gods” they had just heard from the A-lmighty’s voice. Forget the certainty and
intense belief with which they had been filled. They were the same fallible
human beings with doubts and temptations as always—and they failed.
For ultimately, no one can change our lives but we. Just as alcohol can not
solve one’s emotional challenges, inspiration can not take the place of effort.
Just as the giving of the Torah could not prevent the Jews from sinning, neither
can better parents, teachers, friends or financial conditions. We, and we alone,
are the creators of our destiny. We have been granted free choice.
As a child, a famous Jewish sage watched as his home went up in flames. As he
stood beside his mother, watching the last remnants of their house reduced to
ash, he saw that she was crying inconsolably. “The family tree!” she exclaimed
over and over. “The book that records our beautiful lineage! It is lost
forever.” The little boy comforted his mother, declaring, “Don’t worry about
that book. I will create a new family tree. I will establish a new lineage that
you can be proud of."
Let us abandon the “if only I had...” and begin replacing it with “I will
establish a new lineage.” Let us not look past at what could have been, but
rather forward at what must be. What could have been would not have changed
things anyway. What will be is in our hands.
